“If you have anything in your heart other than love then you need to get it out”
Wayne Dwyer
So what are the benefits of forgiveness or acceptance?
Having the ability to truly forgive and accept someone doesn’t always feel easy but when you do, it can be incredibly empowering and it gives you the freedom to move on in a healthier way.
Forgiveness is a process, a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment, jealousy or anger toward a person or group of people who have upset you. Do you need to believe that they actually deserve your forgiveness? Do you really want to accept them? Possibly not, but what you should consider is the impact that your feelings are having on your day-to-day life, the lives of the people around you and most importantly, do these feelings actually benefit you in the long term? How are they really serving you?
6 Reasons why we hang on to anger and resentment
1. It motivates us (but in a negative way)
2. It gives us a reason to believe that we were right
3. It encourages us to focus on one thing that has happened
4. It stops us from considering the other person’s behaviour
5. It allows us to use it against others (like an excuse) moving forward
6. It prevents us from acknowledging our own part in it
The essence of forgiveness allows us to create resilience against things that don’t or didn’t go our way. When we accept forgiveness, we can move forward and accept what is, without prejudice. Anyone who has suffered the pain of their world being seriously disrupted may find it hard to concentrate on anything other than the pain and turbulence caused. However, when we are holding on to these feelings it compromises our emotional day to day capacity and subsequently affects relationships. As soon as we change one thing, everything else starts to change with it.
6 Reasons why we should let go of anger and resentment
1. It will motivate us in a positive way
2. It allows us to understand that we don’t always have to be right
3. It gives us an opportunity to see things from the other person’s point of view
4. We can use it positively to enhance our lives and the lives of those around us
5. It teaches us to be accountable for our own behaviours and responses
6. It is good for our overall emotional mental health and well being
When you work with a coach around these challenges, you will be encouraged to look at the how and why these things happen. This enables you to see things differently and experience the situation in a new way.
If you are struggling to get clarity or closure on a situation that makes no sense, it will be causing you unnecessary stress and upset. Over a long period of time, you are putting your own health at risk. If you want to be free from these negative patterns, then let’s talk.
With clarity comes the freedom to change.
To find out more then please contact me
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